The Unfindable Inquiry, (the UI), developed by Scott Kiloby, is the main tool within all the Living Inquiries.  The UI is the foundation for the relationship inquiries: the Boomerang and Panorama Inquiries. It is the inquiry we use to see that a particular person (e.g., self or other) is empty of separate nature.  It focuses on one person at a time.  In sessions the client tries to find the “invisible self” using the UI.  They cannot find it and so they find a release from that core sense of self.

Here’s how the Unfindable Inquiry works:

  • Name it.  Name the person (e.g. the unlovable self, the victim, the inadequate “me”).  What you are trying to find depends upon the content of your own story.
  • Find it.  Try to find that person.  Go through each of the main thoughts, emotions, and sensations (one by one) that make up the person.  For each appearance ask, “Is this me?”  (e.g., Is this thought me?  Is this emotion me?  Is this sensation me?).  Of course, if you are facilitating the inquiry for someone else, you replace “Is this me?” with “Is this you?”

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